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Not all relationships are good for you. Here’s how to tell the difference.

The relationships you have with the people closest to you can either lift you up or weigh you down.

Whether it’s a partner, family member, friend or colleague, knowing the signs of a toxic relationship e can help you protect your mental and emotional wellbeing. Most importantly, what does a supportive relationship look like?

Let’s find out.

What is a toxic relationship?

A toxic relationship is one that consistently makes you feel drained, anxious or unworthy. Instead of helping you grow, it holds you back.

Common signs of a toxic relationship:

• constant criticism instead of constructive feedback
• manipulation or guilt-tripping to control your behaviour
• lack of trust or consistent dishonesty
• one-sided effort. You give and give, but it’s never returned
• isolation from friends, family or hobbies

If you often feel emotionally exhausted, unsure of yourself or like you're walking on eggshells, these are the red flags you should pay attention to.

What does a supportive relationship look like?

A supportive relationship is grounded in respect, trust and healthy communication. It helps you feel safe, valued and empowered to be yourself.

Key traits of a supportive relationship:

• mutual respect and kindness
• open, honest communication without fear of judgement
• encouragement during tough times and when pursuing goals
• healthy boundaries that are understood and respected
• shared responsibility in maintaining the relationship

In these relationships, you feel seen, heard and supported even when challenges arise.

Why it matters

Toxic relationships can increase your overall stress levels, lower your self-esteem and even impact your physical health. Supportive relationships boost mental health, build resilience and improve life satisfaction.

You deserve a relationship that nourishes, not drains, you.

What you can do next

• Reflect: Are your current relationships lifting you up or pulling you down?
• Seek help: A mental health professional can help you set boundaries and make changes.
• Take action: Prioritise your wellbeing by surrounding yourself with supportive people.

Want to build healthier connections?
Reach out to your employee assistance programme (EAP) provider to explore your wellness benefits and self-care tools.